**Tips on building self-esteem, and taking immediate charge of your life.

Everyone at some point in their life feel as if they have lost control. Work, family and friends demand so much of your time. You barely have a second to sit down, let alone start working toward those goals and ambitions tucked away in a corner of your brain. You might even be thinking, "What goals and ambitions? I haven’t thought about those in years (if ever). I just do not have the time to think about myself. I have a mortgage to pay, kids to feed, dog to walk and six social obligations to fulfill this weekend alone (can you believe three birthday parties in one day!?!). Plus isn’t thinking about me, me, me all of the time a bit selfish?"

If you decide you want a fantastic life, you can make it a reality.

If this sounds like an unrealistic statement, it may be because you are not allowing yourself to believe in the possibility that life is exactly what you make it.

Before you decide that this in only true for millionaires and movie stars, people with lots of time and money - STOP!

"Wait a minute! What about the bills, soccer practice, doctor’s appointments, deadlines, layoffs, illness… I am so busy living everyday life I barely have time to think about what I want. Those things I dream about are not even realistic. How could they possibly fit into the life I have now? I would never neglect my family or career just for some crazy idea of how I want my ‘dream life’ to be."

The truth is, by ignoring your dreams you are not making time for your life responsibilities. You are neglecting yourself.

High self-esteem is having a real love and regard for you. It is about making the commitment to act in your own best interest. Self-esteem is not about anyone else, but you….not your family, friends and co-workers. Wanting successes in your life is not a selfish idea it is a necessity! WE DO NOT LIVE LIFE FOR OTHER PEOPLE, WE LIVE IT FOR OURSELVES.

Increase your self-esteem and create the life that you want, a life filled with more love, health, wealth and professional rewards then you ever thought possible.

• A marriage that is more intimate.
• Frequent promotions at work.
• An increase in your personal wealth.
• Greater sales.
• Spending more time with your family.
• Taking time out for yourself…

No matter what your desire, increasing your self-esteem is the first step towards making it a reality. There is no other place to start.

Take a moment to think about your own self-esteem, and answer the following questions:

1. Do you think you are an amazing person?
2. Do you love who you see when you look in the mirror?
3. Do you give yourself compliments often?
4. When you are in stressful or angry situations, do you stay true to yourself and what you want?
5. Do you reward yourself on a constant basis?
6. Do you have a clear plan for what you want out of life?

If you answered NO to any of these questions, then you have to get serious about how you see yourself and what has prevented you from achieving your goals.

**Having the life that you want demands that you change the way you look at yourSelf, talk to yourSelf and treat yourSelf.

Unless you want to stay in the same situations (personal, professional, financial) that you are in today, you must change the self-messages you are using on a daily basis.

People with low self-esteem have mixed messages about their own self-worth. These occur throughout their upbringing, which means that low self-esteem has been a constant from an early age.

**Make the decision right now to boost your self-esteem and instantly change your life.

You are responsible for giving yourself those things that you missed early in life, such as positive messages regarding your own self-worth/self-esteem. You can learn positive self-talk along with the other skills necessary to increase self-esteem through self-help and motivational material. In fact, self-help literature is the number two best seller second only to books on finance and getting rich. Guess why! You already know that the way you feel about yourself and take care of yourself goes hand in hand with success, especially financial success!

We are convinced that every man, woman and child needs this information to create the life they want. This overview of our "Building Self-esteem" seminar, will give you an opportunity to challenge the way you view yourself and your life right now.

1. Decide you want more.

• Learn to enhance the quality of your life daily.
• Be able to expand opportunities with a greater sense of your own personal worth.
• Notice the mixed messages you have received throughout your life and learn how to change them.
• Tap into your own personal power.

1. Make a commitment to yourself.

• You are the only one to give yourself the care you deserve.
• Value the commitment to loving yourself in a whole new way.
• Trust in yourself.
• Decide to add one step a day toward improving your life.

1. Evaluate yourself.

• Accept that your right to have all the things you want is vital to achieving success.
• You have the intelligence and judgement required to change your life.
• Recognize the talents and abilities you never identified, enjoyed or celebrated in yourself.
• Find role models.
• Change the self-messages you are using daily.
• Accept your absolute worth.
• Repair mixed messages from your upbringing.
• Recognize the qualities in yourself that you admire in others.
• Use your imagination. There is no limit to who you can be.
• Recognize your strengths.
• Identify where your power comes from.
• Agree to be responsible for giving yourself those things you believe you missed early in life.
• Identify traits that prevent you from expanding your self-esteem.
• Identify negative messages you give yourself.
• Check to see if you are taking yourself too seriously.

1. Set goals.

• Build a whole value system designed to enhance your real Self.
• Set goals that will improve the quality of your life.
• Decide to raise your standards.
• Strive for excellence.
• Believe that your life has a definite purpose.
• Talk like a winner.
• Create a step-by-step plan to achieve your goals.

1. Application

• Prioritize
• Visualize
• Document
• Be consistent
• Educate
• Reward

1. Skills that will help you develop greater self-esteem.

• Refuse to trivialize your achievements.
• Accept your positive traits.
• Control your apologies.
• Define the difference between selfishness and self-centeredness.
• Identify, acknowledge and take care of your sadness.
• Refuse to accept sympathy from anyone.
• You can only change yourself not others.
• Say only positive things to yourself and others.

Nancy McFadden, M A, has spent over 15 years in the motivational and self-help field, researching and developing techniques aimed at skyrocketing your self-esteem. As a psychotherapist, university instructor, author and lecturer, Nancy has helped thousands realize their vision of a fantastic life by teaching them self-esteem building skills.

"Building Self-esteem". This seminar contains a step-by-step process proven to dramatically increase your self-esteem through a series of daily exercises.

Take advantage of Nancy McFadden’s experience and professional expertise by purchasing, "Building Self-esteem" NOW.

Like all great achievers, you need to take the first step in improving your life. Success and self-esteem will build with every new step.